I wanted to share something short and sweet about overcoming the fear of failure and belief.
When I did my first EVER Facebook live ‘coaching’ session, I was terrified. I was scared that no-one was going to watch, that I was going to say the wrong things and then I was scared that people were going to watch.
Most of all I was worried about what people would think of me – particularly how I looked.
I have ALWAYS been self-conscious about my body and my looks. I have been lucky to grow up around and hang out with the most beautiful friends in the world that are super confident in who they are and how they look.
However, for me, it is my biggest limiting belief that holds me down whenever I try and do something.
Overcoming the fear of failure
I made a commitment to myself that I was going to call myself out. I was going to overcome this belief of being unworthy or ‘too fat’ to have the things I want and do the things I wanted to do. I was going to start shining in my own lane and grow to love and respect who I am, my body and the choices I want to make.
By declaring it to the world and accepting what scared me and just changing my opinion of it, felt easy. Thoughts and feelings can change and so can fears.
Whenever you feel worried or anxious about what others think of you have doubts about showcasing your talent to the world, ask yourself this;
Am I simply avoiding failure or am I afraid? Can I justify what I am feeling?
Addressing the issue is showing you and everyone else that you are ready for change, that you are here, you are ready to be heard and that you are taking responsibility.
Now you have identified what the problem is, whether you are afraid or have a fear of failure, you can confront it head-on with sass, savagery and truth.
The truth is, you have to face your fears in order to get where you want. I know it sounds very much like a motivational poster, but it’s the truth. The worst thing you can do is not do anything and be complacent. Ask any adult that has been sat at a job that they hate for years what they wish they would’ve done with their lives and they will chew your ear off!
Don’t get me wrong, as with anything, it doesn’t happen overnight.
I still dread the idea of live video and still occasionally have negative perceptions of my body but that’s the joy of being a human and it’s OK to have fears and be afraid to put yourself out there. It’s natural.
It is what you do AFTER you have these thoughts and felt these emotions that count.
For me, the worst thing to happen was either a) people would just stop watching, b) people would unsubscribe or c) all the above and start bad mouthing me.
Either way, I would’ve still done what I had set out to do.
And that is what I did – I hosted a 3-day live event and gained my first ever paying client.
Face your fears head-on by calling yourself out, identifying whether you are genuinely afraid or if you are avoiding failure. Then, confront the task head on and do it.
Don’t waste another second holding yourself back. Do what you want to do and watch the rewards pile up.
Reading – Now Is Your Chance by Niyc Pidgeon
Listening to – Get Up 10 – Cardi B (Listen to this when you feel mega deflated! BANGER!)
Watching – Timeless; I have no idea how I didn’t know this show existed until now! It mixes all the things I love – time travel, history and detective work! Season 1 is on Netflix!
Writing about – How I am worthy of everything that I want in life and how I love and embrace my own story
Learning – How to record training videos
Loving – Peach Coke Zero
Quote of the month
↠ Launch Hello Tigerface! – My new handmade cushion brand made from recycled fabrics!
↠ Catch up with a friend every day
↠ Do something creative every day
↠ Finish and launch my new FREE manifestation email series
↠ Record training videos for my new course